Back in the day, all somebody needed was a simple note: “Do you go out with me? Check yes or no.” After growing up, you may find that it’s a little bit different this time around. You don’t need to be an expert on the topic, however, in order to ask someone to be your girlfriend; all you will need is confidence, planning and the right girl.
There may be some signs if the girl in question likes you, though they may not all be present. However, it is important to keep in mind that just because these signs are present does not necessarily mean that she feels the same as you:
She expresses desire to spend time with you, planning future events: “This movie is coming out and I think we should go see it.”
She has no qualms about making physical contact, touching your shoulder or arm during conversation.
Likewise, she has no qualms about making things personal, frequently meeting your eyes with her own.
She tells you she wants you around for awhile: “These are my friends and this is my family.”
Half the battle is won if you are well-liked by her friends. You don’t need to be close-knit friends, but if she wants to date you, it helps having her friends approve. The easiest way to get on her friends’ good side is to just treat her well; after all, her friends love her and only want the best for her.
It’s also helpful if you know what you’re going to say to her in advance. While you don’t need to be a poet to ask a girl to be your girlfriend, it does help if you don’t sit there without knowing what to say. Just be yourself and let your sincerest words come out: “I always have fun being with you and I would really like for you to be my girlfriend.” The exact formula of words isn’t important.
Ways of Asking a Girl to be Your Girlfriend
When the day comes to asking a girl to be your girlfriend, make sure you look your best. Though you don’t need to hit a level of extreme, such as renting a tuxedo, it would be important to wear some cologne, brush your teeth and shave. After all, you are dressing for optimal power, asking her to forsake all other love interests; you’ll want to make it worth her while.
Take her somewhere romantic. Just as you are to look good for this moment, you probably don’t want to do this during a casual moment, such as dinner at a pizzeria or during the halftime show. Try taking her to an outdoor location, such as the beach or a park. The scenery mixed in with the isolation from others will help set the mood.
Don’t overdo it, but remain confident. Girls may find your shyness endearing, but they enjoy confidence above all else: “I wanted to ask you to be my girlfriend but you probably don’t like me that way.” This is not the way to go. Ask her that burning question with confidence, instead being straightforward to the point where you start to assume she will say yes.
If she says yes, then hats off to you. Otherwise, try not to stress out over it; you will live to love another girl another day. You’ll just have to keep looking for the girl who will fully appreciate what you have to offer in a relationship.
For additional advice we recommend this article about how to ask someone to be your girlfriend.